看到标题,大家可能会问:什么是Small Talk?我们先来假设一个场景:又到年底,你所在的跨国公司为优秀员工组织了一次海上邮轮之旅。来自全球各地的员工在邮轮上相聚,你是其中一员。面对众多陌生的面孔,你自然会寻找一个谈话的对象。那么你会如何打破僵局、和他/她熟络起来?在这期间你和对方的谈话就是所谓的Small Talk,中文就是“闲聊、寒暄”的意思。不管在正式的商务场合、还是相对随意的社交场合,Small Talk都是人与人之间建立友好关系的纽带。但实际上,并不是每个人都会闲聊。今天,我就带大家一起领略Small Talk的艺术。
下面,我们先来听一段对话。你发现了什么?
A: Hello, I saw you sitting on my table at dinner but I didn’t have a chance to speak with you. I’m Harry.
B: Hi, I’m Sandro.
A: Who did you come with? Is this your first company event?
B: Yes.
A: Well, I’m sure you’ll have a great weekend. Have you seen the programme?
B: No, not yet.
A: Oh. Well, it looks very entertaining. I think there are some left at the information desk. Are you here with colleagues?
B: No.
A: Well, you’ll soon get to know people. So, um, would you like another drink?
B: No, I’m fine, thanks.
A: Well, it’s been nice talking to you… erm… Sandro. You don’t mind if I go and get myself a coffee? See you later.
大家应该注意到了:A一直在努力寻找共同话题、推动谈话的进行;而B却只用Yes或No作答,显得非常冷淡,让谈话难以愉快地持续下去。这也正是闲聊时的一个大忌。那么,如何才能在闲聊时营造友好、愉悦的氛围呢?
A: Who did you come with? Is this your first company event?
B: Yes.
如果B这样回答,是不是更好呢?
Yes, it is. I didn’t really know what to expect, but it’s great meeting people from different offices and departments.
或Yes, it is. How about you?
• Really?
• I see.
• What a coincidence!
• That’s amazing!
• That sounds interesting.
• Oh dear…
• Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that.
举个例子:
A: Who are you working with?
B: With the European HR team. I work with Ulrika Thomson.
A: No! What a coincidence! I know her very well.
B: Really? Small world!
Good topics(适合的话题) | Bad topics(不适合的话题) |
Weather | Health |
News | Private life(age,marital status, etc.) |
Travel | Personal gossip |
Hobbies | Religion |
Work | Politics |
Hometown | Offensive jokes |
掌握了以上三大技巧,大家基本可以自如地应对各种社交场合、建立友好的人际关系网络。
除了在谈话过程中要讲究策略,当你想结束谈话的时候,如何巧妙地跟对方道别也是一个非常重要的环节。大家是不是对这方面也很感兴趣呢?
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